What I don’t know about eternal love relationships and answers for those questions
Since love relationships are one of the most important aspects in our lives, we all should have a direct, specific mind map regarding our beliefs about love relationships. Those beliefs should be based on previous experiences just like on our intuitions as well. At the beginning of the process of building our mind map, we should ask the following main question from ourselves: In what kind of relationship do I feel comfortable and fulfilled?
I approve that relationship with ourselves is the most important relationship. However, we are manifesting our true being through interaction with others. “Others” with whom we are spending most of our time means usually our love partner. That’s why it is extremely important to be in the best possible relationship for us.
Let’s assume that we already know who we are and what our life is about. But, does it mean that in case someone doesn’t fit in that picture, he or she should not be part of it at all? Not necessarily. We should let in everyone who deserves it, based on our rational or emotional part of our being.
How long should he or she be part of our lives? Should we let that person go after the first experience when he or she makes something which is uncomfortable for us?
We always have something to learn about ourselves. When there is no conflict, there is no growth. Without growth life doesn’t exist.
But there is difference between conflict with sense and senseless conflict. You should keep on working on that problem until all people are working on the solution including you. Effort is useless only if your partner/partners think that it makes no sense to solve the conflict.
So as long as all of you have the will to make things right, you should try to consider that given argument as a challenge which leads to the right direction.
These are the things I know about eternal love relationships. But still, there were some things which I did not know about them. So I asked someone who is professional in this topic.
I want to be always interesting for my partner.
You will get tired if you always try to reach that. However, you will not get tired if you stick to yourself and if you refuse the behaving expectations of your partner.
Why would I want to behave how my partner expects from me?
Because you are afraid of losing him. This fear means lack of love. Every time you are afraid of losing him, remember that someone is waiting for you who would accept you as you are. And it can happen that it is exactly your current partner who waits to see the real you.
And what about games, I mean, I will start to focus on someone or something else if he doesn’t devote enough attention to me.
It can work sometimes. However, the one thing which always works is to raise the attention to yourself first.
Isn’t it an egoistic approach?
No, it is not egoistic way of thinking because you can satisfy others only after you become satisfied with yourself.
But people often don’t like to speak with people who are satisfied with themselves. They feel bad because they feel less worthy than the satisfied people I guess.
If someone likes you only when you face difficulties, you don’t need that kind of person in your life.
How can I handle the following situation: I enjoy his company the most, but he doesn’t pay his entire attention to me? And I know that he loves me.
Practice to focus on something you like to do. You should exist without your partner as well. You should have a fulfilled life without him too.
How much attention should I devote to him?
As much as you feel, and as much as fulfills your emotional needs.
This is how we get to the point from where we started.
It’s always about us. And we know that most of the time, but mostly sometimes is really exhausting to accept that. It would be much easier if there was someone else or something else on whom/which we could put the blame. But there isn’t if we look deeper in ourselves. Everything which is about us, goes from us.
So, if you want beautiful and fulfilled eternal love relationships with someone else, first, you need to build a relationship with yourself. You heard that so many times. Yes I know it, but you will keep on hearing it until you truly accept these facts. Because these facts make up the truth.
Start to work on that relationship today. Then start it again. Start it as many times as you need to until you begin to be satisfied with all of the relationships around you. Let these words be your inner performance motivation for the upcoming situations: I know I will.
It’s your life, it’s your responsibility. If you have problem with that, you will have problems about everything else in your entire life.